If you think your holiday traditions are peculiar, you have no idea what you are about to read. In just a few days, a grieving daughter plans on eating her mom’s ashes as a part of her Christmas dinner. She plans on sprinkling them over her entire meal and consuming them in order to have her mother…live on?
Debra Parsons lost her mother, Doreen, in May when she died following an airway obstruction after suffering a chest infection. Not being able to cope with the loss, Debra had her mother cremated and has been eating a spoonful of the ashes just about every day to feel closer to her mother.
Debra explains, “People might think I’m mad or that it’s not a very respectful thing to do but I just can’t stop myself. I see it as a positive thing – allowing her to be close to me and also involving her in the family day.”
“It is the only thing that will get me through my first Christmas without mum,” she said. Debra keeps her mother’s ashes in a special box in her house, and she goes to it nearly every day in order to get her fix of her mother’s ashes.
“I decided I wanted to do something with her ashes that would make a difference to how we remembered her. I didn’t want to just scatter them because that would feel like throwing her away.”
One day after looking at the box, she felt a sudden urge to inject the ashes. “I opened the box and licked my fingers and just dipped them into the powder,” Debra explained, “Before I knew what I was doing they were in my mouth and the chalky, salty taste was comforting. I felt confused by what I had done to begin with but the feeling of comfort and closeness it brought was the first bit of solace I’d had since her death.”
So now, Debra plans on scattering her mother’s ashes all over her Christmas dinner. Over the turkey, mashed potatoes, and anything else she plans on eating that day. She thinks it will help her cope with the loss of her mother and spending her first Christmas without her.
“We will have a place laid for her and a picture of her on the table so she can be with us on the very special day.”