No one ever said marriage was a piece of cake. It requires a lot of work. But when Jonna Miller’s husband, David, started coming home late, she decided to take a closer look at his laundry, and what she discovered made her rethink her views on marriage.
Things Started Out Fine
For the first few months of their marriage, Jonna and David were incredibly happy. They soon welcomed their new baby into their lives and triumphed in the role of parents.
But, as their daughter grew, the couple drifted apart.
Jonna Focused On Her Daughter
Jonna fell head over heels for her husband, but now her world revolved around their daughter and making sure she had the best childhood that she could.
Jonna wouldn’t have dreamed of doing anything differently, but she soon wished that she had more time with her husband.
She Was Home All the Time
As a stay at home mother, Jonna spent her days cooking, cleaning and watching after her daughter.
Her husband spend his days at work, so the two didn’t see each other as often as they used to, and this is where their troubles started.
She Started to Feel Neglected
Jonna knew that she was lucky to have a supportive husband, but she couldn’t help but feel like she was being neglected emotionally in their relationship. Her job as a homemaker wasn’t exactly easy, either.
She Felt a Lot of Resentment For Her Husband
It’s never a good sign when a wife starts to resent her husband but that’s exactly how she felt. It was like she was raising their daughter all on her own, and she didn’t like the situation one bit.
Being a parent should be a shared experienced, but he wasn’t keeping up with his end of the bargain, and she was ready to burst.
She Was All Alone Most Days
She knew that being a wife with a kid wasn’t all candies and rainbows, but she didn’t think it was going to be this complicated, especially given that her husband was MIA while she was stuck at home.
She felt stuck, and it didn’t help that her husband offered her very little comfort.
He Was Coming Home Drained
“I don’t recall the Prince missing dinners because he was working overtime or going to bed shortly after he came home to his Palace because he was so exhausted,” she added on her blog.
Something wasn’t right, but it wasn’t until she went digging through his laundry that she got suspicious.
The Clues Were in the Laundry
She looked at the clothes on the bed and grabbed one of his shirts to study it closely. That’s when the truth hit her like a speeding truck.
Now she knew why her husband came home late all the time, and it left her shaken.
Her Insecurities Grew
Miller and her husband lived in Leesburg, Indiana. They hadn’t been married very long, but everything was going great, so far.
But then, he started coming home later than usual. Was it possible that he wasn’t happy with his family anymore? Then, out of the blue, she found the answers she desperately needed.
She Had Met Her Better Half
After wondering if she’d ever find Mr. Right, Jonna Miller ran into David. Shortly after their first date in 2012, she sent her best friend a text gushing about finally meeting her future husband.
She was right, too. But then she realized her relationship wasn’t the fairy tale she thought it was.
The Couple Had a New Addition
A year later, they got engaged and then Miller gave birth to a baby girl named Delanie in 2014.
And in 2015, she walked down the aisle and tied the knot with her one and only. But things didn’t exactly go as planned.
She Recalled His Thanksgiving Proposal
Miller remembered how romantic it was when David proposed to her in front of 25 people during a Thanksgiving feast.
It was one of the most memorable holidays of her life, and she had plenty to be grateful for. But all that changed in such a short time.
They Were Ready to Get Hitched
As Jonna looked online for wedding inspiration, it seemed apparent that most of the women that she was looking to for advice were focused on their wedding, not their marriage.
Jonna knew how to adorn her hair and pick out a dress, but no one seemed to mention what life would be like after you walked down the aisle.
Joanna Didn’t Listen to Other Girls
Other girls were focused on things like checking their would-be-husband’s phones, making sure he wasn’t doing anything that seemed to be suspicious or making sure that he was on track to make more money in the future, but Jonna wasn’t interested in doing any of these things.
Marriage Was Rough
And it turns out that issues like trust and finances don’t just resolve themselves if you don’t work on them during a marriage.
Jonna soon started to feel a rift in her relationship and she wasn’t sure how to deal with it.
The Wedding Wasn’t Truthful
Marriages last a lot longer than weddings and Jonna realized that although her wedding pictures painted the perfect image of a couple completely and totally joyful in their love, her day to day life was a lot more stressful.
Marriage Wasn’t What She Expected
She soon realized that marriage wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. For starters, she didn’t recall her mom reading anything about Snow White or Cinderella dealing with the Prince’s dirty laundry.
But that wasn’t the only thing that was bugging her.
Some of His Family Didn’t Attend Their Service
Due to religious beliefs and the fact that the couple’s first daughter was conceived before the two were married, some of David’s family didn’t show up to their wedding.
This coupled with some other things down the road only worsened the stress on the couple’s relationship.
She Was Only 23 When She Got Married
Even when Jonna was getting married, she couldn’t help but realize that she still felt like a child at the age of 23.
On her Facebook page she wrote, “I thought I was supposed to feel like an adult at this point but I’m realizing I’m still a kid, I just pay bills now.”
She Needed an Outlet
Miller was just a small-town girl from Indiana, but there was one thing that she had that wasn’t small at all; her mouth!
She was the kind of person who couldn’t keep herself from saying how she felt. She had a wicked sense of humor and loved to instigate, but having a sense of humor wasn’t the outlet she desperately needed. Something else was.
She Turned to Blogging to Cope
Miller was having a hard time dealing with the downsides of marriage, so she created a blog called “The Blunt Blonde” to vent.
In it, she wrote: “I don’t ever recall the Prince in the fairytale having rough, cracked hands and crows feet before he turns 30.” But those weren’t the only warning signs.
She Loved Creating Awkward Situations
Miller wondered if she was to blame for not seeing the clues earlier. She was raised in Indiana and often joked that she spent a lot of times telling bad jokes and creating awkward situations.
But it was her sarcastic nature that made her such a great blogger. And it was her followers she turned to when the going got tough.
Her Bluntness Was Mind-Blowing
Social media knows her as The Blunt Blonde, and her profile section on Twitter speaks volumes.
“People think I’m always joking but I’m not. I’m genuinely an unpleasant person and hate everyone equally,” she wrote on her “About Me” section, and her blog is just as snarky and sassy.
Her Second Language is Sarcasm
On the About section of her blog, she mentions that English isn’t her only language. “If you haven’t caught on, I am fluent in English and Sarcasm.”
But that’s not the only eye-opening revelation her followers have read. Some of her posts had a lot of people raising their eyebrows, and with good reason!
She’s Practically a Slave
“I’m currently a stay-at-home slave,” She explains on the About section of her blog. She even calls her daughter her three-foot-tall boss who loves to pile on the work.
But in spite of her snarky “in your face” type of humor, her followers weren’t prepared for her to share what was really on her mind.
She Left Her Followers Speechless
Thousands of her readers tuned in to see what she would write about next.
But one day, she decided to talk about her husband, and what she had learned about him, which left her followers utterly speechless.
David’s Family Had a Different Mindset
The reason that some of David’s family didn’t attend the couple’s wedding service was because they were Amish.
David was raised in an Amish community and now that he has left that life behind, he doesn’t see some of his family members as much as he used to.
They Came From Two Different Worlds
His childhood was quite different from Miller’s light-hearted life. He was raised in an Amish community, where distrust of technology and simple living was the staple of this Swiss-German religious order.
But she didn’t think this would ever be a deal breaker. Was she wrong?
The Amish Don’t Wear Ties
Miller recalled one Amish habit she found a tad too eccentric which she shared with her followers. “When I picked out ties for the guys to wear, my husband carefully notified me from a distance, ‘They can only wear bow-ties.’ I stared.
He said slowly ‘Amish people cannot wear ties.’ I exploded.” Despite their differences, her husband was adapting a lot better to his new life than she was.
David’s People Didn’t Like Technology
Her husband grew up in a Swiss-German Amish community that turned their backs on modern technology in exchange for a simpler life, which was the complete opposite of who Miller was.
But he seemed willing to change for her, or so she assumed.
She Was Unfamiliar With Amish Culture
Miller didn’t know much about the Amish lifestyle until she met her husband. “All I really knew about them was that they made doughnuts that would slap your taste buds with happiness you’ve never experienced before,” she wrote on her blog.
She also didn’t know what kind of husbands Amish men made. She only wished she had realized a lot of things sooner. But sadly, that wasn’t the case.
He Was Adjusting Better Than She Was
She was often amused by her husband’s idiosyncrasies. She even dedicated a whole section to him on her blog called, “You can take a Man out of the Amish but…”
She claimed that he was “well-adjusted to his new ‘English’ lifestyle.” But she was the one who wasn’t adjusting to married life.
She Felt Conflicted and Isolated
Her husband worked grueling hours at an RV dealership, so he often didn’t make it home until it was late in the evening.
On the other hand, Miller was a stay-at-home mom, who kept her online followers satiated. But on her blog, she claimed that her husband’s absence made her conflicted and isolated.
Jonna Knew About David’s Past
Jonna knew about David’s past from the start of their relationship, but it still felt like a huge bridge to gap at times.
So much of Jonna’s life existed on the Internet, and it seemed like David didn’t want anything to do with that.
They’re Very Different People
Although Jonna and David are two very different people, they love each other tremendously, and that’s what makes them such a strong couple.
That and the fact that they love their children more than life itself keeps them going when things get hard.
She Was Angry He Was Home Late
In 2015, she went on her blog after a rather difficult day and wrote: “Sometimes he will come home after a long day at work and I’ll be waiting for him to walk in the door, so I can yell ‘you promised me you would be home at five!’
As if he would rather be working than spending time with me and our daughter.” But she didn’t realize she was overreacting.
She Was Putting Him in a Tough Spot
“I know I’m putting him in a lose-lose situation,” she wrote on her blog.” He literally can’t win. If he doesn’t work late, we won’t get the new furniture set that I have to have.
If he does work later, he comes home to a nagging wife who is desperate for his attention.” But while doing the laundry, it all became clear.
Folding His Clothes Cleared Things Up
She created two separate piles and folded the clothes she had taken from the dryer. One belonged to her. The other belonged to her husband.
“Why did my clothes look so vibrant, clean and new? His were dingy, stained and torn. I stopped folding and just stood there, thinking,” she wrote. And that’s when it hit her.
He Worked Hard to Keep Her Happy
There was a reason she had to put his dinner in the fridge whenever he didn’t come home by the time he had promised.
It wasn’t because he didn’t want to spend time with her. It was because he was working hard in order to keep her happy, and that’s when shame overcame her.
He Took the Hit So She’d Look Nice
The wave of guilt was life-altering. “This man provided more than I deserve. If I tell him I want something, very seldom will he tell me no,” she shared on her blog.
She realized that her husband had been wearing old, worn-out clothes every day, while her clothes were new and expensive. But she had assumed the worst.
He Never Showed Any Regret
“I get spoiled with the fruits of his labor, and he is okay with a pair of torn boxer briefs. I was acting as if he was out partying with his friends, but his laundry told a completely different story,” she wrote.
But the thing that made her sad was the fact that he never complained. “His heart is full when he walks in [through] the door and our daughter runs for him excitedly yelling, ‘Dada!’” And she realized she had to change.
She Had a Huge Epiphany
After Miller’s epiphany, she promised herself that she would try to be a more equal partner. From now on if she started to feel anger because he was late, she would remember that he was making sacrifices for his loved ones.
So, she encouraged her followers to think first before accusing their husbands of doing something wrong.
He Clearly Made Tough Choices
It finally dawned on her. Her husband was giving up the extra time he could have spent with his daughter. Something she realized she was taking for granted.
This became obvious to Miller every time she saw him with their daughter.
The two loved being together. It was as if they were joined at the hip! He enjoyed every precious minute he had with his little girl because he knew there weren’t many of those throughout the day.
He Gave Her Everything
“Sure, I miss him and want to spend time with him throughout the week, but I have realized he is offering me the most beautiful form of love there is…
He works to give our family everything we need. He works so his wife and daughter don’t go without, even though there are times I’m sure he does,” she shared. But she still had more important advice for her readers.
She Offered Her Followers Sage Advice
Miller’s random observation allowed her to admit that her resentment towards her husband was baseless. She also offered more great advice to her readers.
“If you have a hard-working man in your life and you can’t comprehend how much he loves you… Do his laundry.” And this resonated with her readers.
Miller’s Followers Related to Her
Miller’s followers could relate to her blog post. But one follower was strongly affected by her. “This is an amazing reminder. I used to stay home with our daughters when they were little, and I used to feel horrible doing the same thing.
This is an awesome perspective to carry,” the woman wrote, according to Top 5. But the blog posts aren’t always rantings on Miller’s part.
Her Friends Think She’s a Super Mom
Jonna is now known by tens of thousands of people online as a great mother, and her close friends agree with this assessment.
They know that she’d give anything for her kids, even if that means taking some time offline for a while.
Her Relationship is Stable Again
After Jonna’s epiphany, the wife and mother realized that she actually had a pretty great relationship, all things considered.
Her husband may be busy, but he is never dishonest, lazy or angry, so she realized that she was joyful in her situation after all.
Her Posts Are Very Popular
Real Blunt Blonde has tons of witty and hilarious posts about Miller’s family.
But a lot of her posts also talk about her husband’s Amish roots in length, and these have been very popular with her followers as everyone’s interest in the culture continues to pique. But she wants to set the record straight about one thing.
She Pokes Fun at Her Naive Misconceptions
“I’m not Amish but my Husband is” is one of many blog posts that Miller wrote about her husband. In it, she talked about what happened the first time she met her husband’s parents.
She also clarified a lot of misconceptions that she too had about the Amish people. And she actually enjoys poking fun at her naivety using her wicked sense of humor.
But she also provides great parenting tips.
She Graduated at the University of Toddler Town
Miller also shares her experience on being a mom to Delanie. In 2016, she had to deal with her daughter’s rebellious attitude during the “terrible twos.”
She titled this blog post, “I Graduated at the University of Toddler Town and Majored in Defeat.” And while her clothes might not reflect how hard she works, it’s obvious she’s been through some ordeals of her own.
She’s a Master at Juggling Her Schedule
Although Miller is pretty busy being a housewife and a parent, she always finds the extra time to keep her blog up to date.
She shares plenty of witty remarks and sarcastic points of views about being married with children with her followers every week. But she also likes to share all the fun things she does with her lovely daughter.
She Loves Her Itsy-Bitsy Spider
Although being a mom can be exhausting, Miller certainly has a lot of fun with her daughter, especially on Halloween, like the time she dressed her little girl up as a spider.
But Halloween isn’t her only favorite holiday.
Christmas is a Big Deal for the Millers
Christmas happens to be another one of Miller’s favorite holidays.
And although her husband David is very busy working all the time, she can always count on him, or rather Santa, to come to town and put a smile on her and her daughter’s face.
Delanie Got to Meet Cinderella
Despite his busy schedule, David took time off to take a trip to Disneyland with his family. That’s where their daughter Delanie got to meet Cinderella herself.
But soon, the little girl realized she was no longer the only princess of her own castle.
Miller Shared She Was Pregnant Again
In February 2019, Miller shared that she was pregnant with twins. Of course, that also meant that she wasn’t going to get a break anytime soon. But she’d have plenty to write about on her blog.
The Twins Arrived at Last
In September 2019, she gave birth to her twins, one of whom was a little girl they named Molly. She looked a lot like her big sister Delanie. The other twin was a sweet little boy they named Reese.
The Millers Have a Full House Now
It’s safe to say that the Millers are going to have their hands full now that they have Molly and Reese. Between eating schedules and diaper changes, these parents are going to need a vacation pretty soon.
Hopefully, their eldest daughter Delanie will lend a hand. But how does she feel about babysitting her younger siblings?
Delanie Loves Being a Big Sister
Delanie is having a wonderful time with her new brother and sister and there are no indications of sibling rivalry just yet.
On a Facebook post, Miller wrote the following caption: “For those who have been following me for a while, well you know Delanie... she’s livin her best life!”
Being the Older Sister Has Its Downsides
Of course, no one expects Delanie to do everything for her parents or her siblings. She is just a little girl, after all.
So, when one of her siblings get fussy, she just hugs them and shrugs. Babies don’t come with a manual. And it’s clear that this babysitter is just winging it. But she’s not the only one!
The Millers Deal With Double the Trouble
Meanwhile, Miller and her husband are still trying to get the hang of things while adjusting to life with twins.
This means double the feedings, double the baths, double the cries. For now, they’re just riding it out and doing the best they can.
Miller Tries to Keep the Romance Alive
Miller is also trying to recapturing the romance with her husband on Valentine’s Day. She joked on her Facebook page, Real Blunt Blonde, how she tries to flirt with her husband by posting a video of herself doing various house chores.
Is there a bigger turn on than a clean house? Exactly!
She’s PSAing the Heck Out of a Current Outbreak
On her Facebook page, Miller posted a video with the caption “Let’s not spread the Coronavirus like it’s JIF,” and added the hashtag #imnotreallyfreakingout because she didn’t think it made sense to lose her cool.
As long as people take precautions, there’s no reason to freak out just yet. In the video, she’s rocking a pair of gloves and a mask to drive the message across.
Hanging out With a New Mom is Scary
She has also posted videos on Real Blunt Blonde that talk about every subject that most moms go through, like her funny video called: “Hanging out with a new mom.” Not only does she poke fun at how she has to pretend like she’s got it all together.
But she also has to keep her cool when she wants to discipline her daughter in front of the new mom friend she’s trying to impress. “Hanging out with a new mom is scarier than dating. #ItsAFact!,” she wrote.
Her Blog is Out of Commission
Although Miller’s LinkedIn account shows that she’s been running the Blunt Blonde blog for nearly four and a half years, the site itself appears to be down for the foreseeable future. But she’ll undoubtedly keep her followers updated on her Instagram and Facebook.